Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it's no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”
- Eckhart Tolle
Face it. Relationships take work. Important conversations require attention, intention, and commitment. Great conversations make a relationship flourish. Without them, relationships, both personal and professional, flounder or atrophy.
Great conversations require courage since most of us are nervous about opening up delicate or touchy topics. However, with a modicum of skill development, awareness of what is possible, and a vision of how you want to be, great conversations are not only possible, they are at your finger tips.
The practice this week, Reap Your Rewards, goes over very specific to do items that will help you walk away from an important conversation with the closest thing to a guarantee that something will move forward.
You'll see when you check out Reap Your Rewards that there are three steps to this model of maximizing success and creating closure:
Step one is capturing agreements and actions, as well as who will do what, when, and how it will be communicated back.
Step two is gaining clarity about any next steps that are not part of the actions and agreements.
Step three is expressing gratitude. For this, we will use the practice of giving a GIFT.
I've engaged in important conversations that seemed greatest when they happened. However, weeks later, when the folks get together again, someone didn't know that they had an action, someone else assumed that the other was taking care of it, etc. Misunderstandings were rampant since nothing was written down.
I also heard important conversations that seemed to be moving along well when suddenly the conversation ends without any closure.
You deserve a prize and to reap the rewards from the hard work you do to engage in pre-work, to initiate the conversation, and to do all that is needed to keep the body of the conversation on track. Certainly, giving yourself credit for getting to that point is worth doing. However, clinching it with the practices of culling out and reviewing agreements, actions, POCs, next steps, and ending with giving a GIFT will really let you reap the rewards long term.
Write in as you gather your courage and engage in these important conversations that are vital to the health of all your relationships.