If you fall, get back up. That's what life is about.”
- Keith Sweat
“Do not judge me for how many times I fail but for how many tines I get back up.”
- Nelson Mandela
“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.”
“If you don't deal with your demons, they will deal with you, and it's gonna hurt.”
- Nikki Sixx
Given that we didn't get driving lessons and we are learning as we go, it is fair to say that learning how to get back on the path when we veer off is imperative. Another way to talk about this is developing internal resilience. When we get down on ourselves and our self-talk gets negative, how to we get back on a positive trajectory?
Developing a strong angel voice when you are not in a major put-down will go a long way in helping you turn it around when you do slip.
Developing your awareness of yourself is equally important. The sooner you become aware that you are in the old rut of negative self-talk, the easier it is to get off the super highway of self-criticism and onto the path you want to be on.
Giving yourself a margin of error and having a big dose of self-compassion is another aid that will help you get back on the path. If you are condemning yourself, it will be easier to accept a positive internal voice if you are able to get the negative voice to be quiet and listen. Self-compassion includes forgiving yourself for being down on yourself. After all, you've been practicing that negative self-talk for a lifetime.
Going off the path is human. Learning how to get back on the path is crucial to our well-being as humans. Getting facile at getting back on track quickly and easily is a skill worth cultivating. The sooner you become aware, the stronger your angel voice is, the bigger your self-compassion is, the more resilient you become. The more resilient you are, the less time you spend feeling bad and the more time you spend feeling joy and being productive. How great is that!