On the Road Again

If you fall, get back up. That's what life is about.”
- Keith Sweat

“Do not judge me for how many times I fail but for how many tines I get back up.”
- Nelson Mandela

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.”
- Buddha

“If you don't deal with your demons, they will deal with you, and it's gonna hurt.”
- Nikki Sixx

Given that we didn't get driving lessons and we are learning as we go, it is fair to say that learning how to get back on the path when we veer off is imperative. Another way to talk about this is developing internal resilience. When we get down on ourselves and our self-talk gets negative, how to we get back on a positive trajectory?

Developing a strong angel voice when you are not in a major put-down will go a long way in helping you turn it around when you do slip.

Developing your awareness of yourself is equally important. The sooner you become aware that you are in the old rut of negative self-talk, the easier it is to get off the super highway of self-criticism and onto the path you want to be on.

Giving yourself a margin of error and having a big dose of self-compassion is another aid that will help you get back on the path. If you are condemning yourself, it will be easier to accept a positive internal voice if you are able to get the negative voice to be quiet and listen. Self-compassion includes forgiving yourself for being down on yourself. After all, you've been practicing that negative self-talk for a lifetime.

Going off the path is human. Learning how to get back on the path is crucial to our well-being as humans. Getting facile at getting back on track quickly and easily is a skill worth cultivating. The sooner you become aware, the stronger your angel voice is, the bigger your self-compassion is, the more resilient you become. The more resilient you are, the less time you spend feeling bad and the more time you spend feeling joy and being productive. How great is that!

Judith Bell, M.S., Master LHEP™

Judith Bell, M.S., Master LHEP™

Judith is the founder and president of Rewire Leadership Institute®. A master facilitator, consultant, teacher, and coach, she has created and facilitated personal growth, team development and organizational change seminars, coached executives and teams, facilitated strategic planning and high visibility meetings, and supported culture change for over four decades. Judith works with a diverse range of companies from government agencies, non-profit, Fortune Global 500, to small and mid-sized family owned businesses including such organizations as NASA, Seaflow, Total Oil, Restoration Hardware, San Antonio Water System, and Culver Company.

Superb at supporting individuals, pairs, and teams in developing the skills necessary to realize their full potential, Judith helps executives, managers, and staff gain the ability to respond flexibly and rapidly to their changing environment. Through extensive experience and research, she utilizes a number of different approaches including the FIRO theory, systems theory, cybernetics, neuroscience, cognitive, positive, and success psychology.

As one of the world’s leading experts on the FIRO theory, she trains consultants internationally. A consultant’s consultant, Judith mentors facilitators, coaches, therapists and other professionals in the integration of the FIRO theory in their work. From 1981 until 2004, she worked closely with Dr. Will Schutz, the creator of FIRO theory. Independently, Judith developed FIRO Theory Profiling, which has been lauded as the first innovation in the FIRO theory instruments aside from Dr. Schutz’ own developments. She continues to develop courses that synthesize her studies and experience and are based in FIRO theory.

Starting in her teenage years, Judith has been a pioneer in her passion for authenticity, clear communication, and positive change. She is lauded for her ability to see others’ potential and help them realize it—be they individuals, pairs, teams, or organizations. Judith’s zest for life, appreciation for others, and generosity of spirit inspires those with whom she works.

An honor’s student at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, Judith’s desire and passion to learn about authenticity motivated her to move her studies to The Institute for Creative and Artistic Development (ICAD) in Oakland, California. As the youngest student in their teacher training program, she created and graduated with an undergraduate degree that focused on authenticity through California State University, Sonoma. Continuing on her quest to study authenticity and creativity, Judith began taking courses at California State University, Hayward where she also created and graduated with a unique Master’s degree that focused on communication, transformation, and the creative arts.

Interested in systems and change, Judith began experimenting with her innovative action-oriented approach to assess and intervene with families, groups, and organizations. Through this work, she became a much sought-after instructor, training masters and doctoral students in her seminal work. As chair of a psychology program focused on Creative Arts Therapies at Antioch University, San Francisco, she developed curriculum and continued to serve as guest faculty and lecturer at universities nationwide.

In addition to leading Rewire Leadership, Judith and her husband, Daniel Ellenberg, co-founded Relationships That Work®, where she serves as Vice President. She and Daniel co-authored Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership, which applies the principles of Rewire Leadership Institute® to romantic relationships. Recently, they co-authored a chapter in Mastering the Art of Success: Volume 8. With Matt White, Judith recently co-authored Leading with Courage.

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