Internal Synergy

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.””
- Aristotle

“Synergy between thoughts and feelings reads the universe like an opened book.”
- Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

“Happiness is our most natural state of being; a result of our synergy with the way it is.”
- Joseph Rain

“Synergy is the only true way to [world] peace. Any sort of division will cripple the beast of unity.”
- Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

The brackets in the quote above are mine, wanting you to read the quote in a way that you hear it about your own internal peace. The joy and the amount of energy that come from this synergy is remarkable. On the other hand, the pain and drain of energy that comes from internal conflicts is exhausting beyond belief. The experience we human beings have of stress when we are battling internal demons is debilitating and is a grand waste of time.

I'm reminded of a female consultant who was in one of my leadership courses. When she came to the course, she was at war inside herself. As the group supported her in loving herself, she became more and more peaceful, realizing that the various parts of herself were worth loving and that these parts could exist inside her harmoniously. With her eyes closed, we had a ceremony in which she married herself. Coursemates showered her with rose petals. Her delight was palpable and everyone celebrated her internal marriage.

This proved to be a pivotal experience in her life, putting her on a positive trajectory that affected her personal relationships and her work life. Bringing all the parts of yourself together so they can coexist harmoniously is worth the effort.

When I was in high school, I was acutely aware of the war inside me. I wanted to appear to have it all together. Since I knew that I didn't, it created a lot of tension inside me. I was plagued with the idea that I needed to be perfect but perfect I wasn't. Therefore, from that perspective, I was worthless. This, as you can well imagine, doesn't make for a joyous state of consciousness.

I remember at 16 years old making a commitment to myself that I was going to resolve this; to bring my inside and my outside together. And so began my search for teachers and mentors who could teach me about authenticity—about how to bring all the parts of me together.

It is from that work with the Institute for Creative and Artistic Development that Round Table Work™ emerged. As I learned about self-styles from Juanita and Eugene Sagan, I immediately saw the characters sitting together at a round table, working things out together. It was the beginning of finding internal harmony. That internal harmony creates internal synergy which, when unleashed, is what empowers us to live into our full potential. We are all works in progress. However, the more harmony, the more joy on the journey.

Judith Bell, M.S., Master LHEP™

Judith Bell, M.S., Master LHEP™

Judith is the founder and president of Rewire Leadership Institute®. A master facilitator, consultant, teacher, and coach, she has created and facilitated personal growth, team development and organizational change seminars, coached executives and teams, facilitated strategic planning and high visibility meetings, and supported culture change for over four decades. Judith works with a diverse range of companies from government agencies, non-profit, Fortune Global 500, to small and mid-sized family owned businesses including such organizations as NASA, Seaflow, Total Oil, Restoration Hardware, San Antonio Water System, and Culver Company.

Superb at supporting individuals, pairs, and teams in developing the skills necessary to realize their full potential, Judith helps executives, managers, and staff gain the ability to respond flexibly and rapidly to their changing environment. Through extensive experience and research, she utilizes a number of different approaches including the FIRO theory, systems theory, cybernetics, neuroscience, cognitive, positive, and success psychology.

As one of the world’s leading experts on the FIRO theory, she trains consultants internationally. A consultant’s consultant, Judith mentors facilitators, coaches, therapists and other professionals in the integration of the FIRO theory in their work. From 1981 until 2004, she worked closely with Dr. Will Schutz, the creator of FIRO theory. Independently, Judith developed FIRO Theory Profiling, which has been lauded as the first innovation in the FIRO theory instruments aside from Dr. Schutz’ own developments. She continues to develop courses that synthesize her studies and experience and are based in FIRO theory.

Starting in her teenage years, Judith has been a pioneer in her passion for authenticity, clear communication, and positive change. She is lauded for her ability to see others’ potential and help them realize it—be they individuals, pairs, teams, or organizations. Judith’s zest for life, appreciation for others, and generosity of spirit inspires those with whom she works.

An honor’s student at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, Judith’s desire and passion to learn about authenticity motivated her to move her studies to The Institute for Creative and Artistic Development (ICAD) in Oakland, California. As the youngest student in their teacher training program, she created and graduated with an undergraduate degree that focused on authenticity through California State University, Sonoma. Continuing on her quest to study authenticity and creativity, Judith began taking courses at California State University, Hayward where she also created and graduated with a unique Master’s degree that focused on communication, transformation, and the creative arts.

Interested in systems and change, Judith began experimenting with her innovative action-oriented approach to assess and intervene with families, groups, and organizations. Through this work, she became a much sought-after instructor, training masters and doctoral students in her seminal work. As chair of a psychology program focused on Creative Arts Therapies at Antioch University, San Francisco, she developed curriculum and continued to serve as guest faculty and lecturer at universities nationwide.

In addition to leading Rewire Leadership, Judith and her husband, Daniel Ellenberg, co-founded Relationships That Work®, where she serves as Vice President. She and Daniel co-authored Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership, which applies the principles of Rewire Leadership Institute® to romantic relationships. Recently, they co-authored a chapter in Mastering the Art of Success: Volume 8. With Matt White, Judith recently co-authored Leading with Courage.

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