When You Let Yourself Down
May 2, 2016
My definition of addiction may be different than you've heard. I define addiction as the use of a substance, behavior, or attitude to change your state from one of pain to pleasure but the choice has negative side effects. I see addiction as a dis-ease, not a disease.
What motivates us to...
Inclusion and Diversity Inside
April 11, 2016
Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself. I am large; I contain multitudes.”
- Walt Whitman
Would that Whitman's declaration was understood and appreciated by all. We would not be suffering from so much inner strife. So often, we humans work hard to be consistent,...
April 4, 2016
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.””
“Synergy between thoughts and feelings reads the universe like an opened book.”
- Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut
“Happiness is our most natural state of being; a result of our synergy with the way...
Easier Said than Done
March 28, 2016
If you read last week's blog post Love Yourself Anyway, you may have thought, “Easy for you to say. She doesn't have the same negative traits that I have.” Or you may have thought something like, “I don't deserve to forgive myself and love myself anyway.” Or...
A Hidden Jewel
March 27, 2016
Self-compassion is commonly misunderstood. While some misunderstandings have minimal effect, misconceptions about self-compassion have profound impact. Often misunderstood as an excuse to feel self-pity, a reason to stop trying, or a rationale to be selfish—a kind of de facto admission of...
Love Yourself Anyway
March 21, 2016
We are all imperfect. Love yourself anyway.
You made mistakes and you will make mistakes. Love yourself anyway.
You step on people's toes. Love yourself anyway.
You say the wrong things. Love yourself anyway.
You get reactive and triggered. Love yourself anyway.
You treat people in less than...
The Power of Self-Compassion
March 20, 2016
What if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all the beggars, the most impudent of all the offenders, the very enemy himself—that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness; that I myself am the enemy who must be...
Shifting from Blame and Shame to Self-Compassion
March 14, 2016
Without intending malice, parents and teachers often leave a scarred battlefield behind them. “How could you?” “Why didn't you?” “You should have...” “What is wrong with you?” “You couldn't possibly have...” These admonishments...
Appreciating Yourself As You Are
March 7, 2016
I found out that a close friend of mine passed away on Thursday due to a massive stroke. I was shocked, grief-stricken, and immediately felt the loss of not being able to see my friend ever again. I had a lot of work to do on Thursday and Friday, so when a wave of grief subsided my energy turned...
The Birth of Self-Compassion
March 1, 2016
It's hard to feel compassionate for yourself when you have a lot of self-loathing. Most of us pretend that we don't, but deep down we do. We beat ourselves up for eating the wrong thing or eating too much, for saying the wrong thing or not saying anything at all, for avoiding the work we...