Shifting from Self-Judgment to Self-Compassion
March 25, 2015
I was having lunch with a group of people recently, and one woman (I'll call her Jane) was talking about her experience at her doctor's office. She has lived with chronic pain for many years, and she was describing one of her strategies to help her cope. “I try to keep perspective,...
Finding Compassion When You Don't Feel It
Getting Conversations Back on the Path
March 25, 2015
“Our task must be to free ourselves . . .by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and its beauty.” – Albert Einstein
Widening our circle of compassion is a noble quest. It is easy when we are feeling balanced and good inside...
How Self-Compassion Feeds Compassion Towards Others
March 16, 2015
It is lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion toward others. If we make friends with ourselves, then there is no obstacle to opening our hearts and minds to others.”
As a consultant, coach, course facilitator, and teacher, I have had the good fortune to work with...
What Breeds a Lack of Compassion
March 9, 2015
Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.”
– Tara Brach
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the...
Why Compassion Matters in Conversations
March 2, 2015
Arthur Schopenhauer said it eloquently, “Compassion is the basis of morality.” It is only when we care about the pain of others that we do the just and morale act. When we cut ourselves off from feeling for the suffering of others, it is too easy to turn away and do nothing, or worse,...
The Impeccable Language of Choice
February 23, 2015
Many of us choose the 'easy' way out. We say 'yes' when we don’t really intend to follow through. We don’t want to deal with the immediate consequences of saying 'no.' We believe (or pretend to believe) that you, the other, want to hear 'yes' and would have a...
Repercussions of Slipping
Dead Bodies on the Side of the Road
February 16, 2015
Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? If you're always right, you get to live (work) with a bunch of losers. The choice is yours.
And, bottom line, the choice you make has to do with being impeccable in conversations.
The reality is that there are times people say something as a...
It's Okay to Cheat
February 9, 2015
After reading last week's blog How to Be Impeccable, a colleague and friend sent me a beautiful passage written by Richard Rohr, a Franciscan monk. Providing a holistic definition of “sin,” Rohr says: “Once this divine flow starts, there is no reason for it to stop, unless...
How to Be Impeccable
February 2, 2015
Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
- Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
The word 'impeccable' comes from...
The Importance of Being Flexible
January 26, 2015
The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”
- Albert Einstein
“Intelligence is the handmaiden of flexibility and change.”
- Vernor Vinge, A Fire Upon the Deep
“There can be no life without change, and to be afraid of what is different or unfamiliar is to be afraid...