Can You Be Too Flexible?
January 19, 2015
You know how sports teach kids teamwork and how to be strong and brave and confident? Improv was my sport. I learned how to not waffle and how to hold a conversation, how to take risks and actually be excited to fail.”
- Emma Stone
“A real conversation always contains an invitation....
Flexibility in Conversations
January 17, 2015
I was having a conversation recently with somebody very close to me. I remember I was being very intentional in how I was speaking. I was thinking about what I was sharing, and I was also in a little bit of story-telling mode. The woman with whom I was speaking was trying to anticipate what I was...
The Art of Conversation
January 12, 2015
On the east coast, if you interrupt someone, it shows that you are interested and engaged. On the west coast, you are thought to be rude. You might surmise that conversations vary widely from coast to coast. A conversation between two people who wait until the speaker is finished completely...
When Flexibility Matters
January 5, 2015
Being consistent is a value held by many. In fact, our brains are hard wired to maintain consistency. If I tell someone something and then find myself doing something else, there is an internal mechanism that recognizes the inconsistency and pulls me back to a consistent position. If that...
December 30, 2014
In my early twenties, I wrote a poem to my mother that spoke to my deep gratitude and appreciation for all that I received as well as my resentments for what I didn't get or got differently than I had wanted. It was a cathartic experience and I liked the results.
It was momentous for me since...
Authentic Holiday Conversations
December 22, 2014
The holidays can be a stressful time. Deciding who shows up at which family gatherings is often difficult for divorced and/or blended families. On top of that are the interactions with extended family members with whom you may not get along well or even want to see. Add gifts to the equation and...
What to Do When You Feel Blue
December 15, 2014
It's much easier to show up authentically when you're feeling great but what about those times when you feel lousy, out of sorts, depressed, just downright blah or negative? Then what?
This is when most people just act out. Unable to sit with or contain their yucky mood, they let it spill...
Showing Up Authentically in Conversations
December 8, 2014
To Be or Not To Be...Authentic addresses the importance of quieting defensive reactions so that your authentic, undefended self can emerge. Today's blog focuses on bringing forward, listening to, and using all the various and sometimes conflicting parts of yourself.
We human beings are...
To Be or Not to Be...Authentic
December 1, 2014
As Webster's Dictionary defines authentic in relation to a person, it is “true to one's own personality, spirit, or character.” The question then becomes:
- What is one's personality, spirit, or character?
- What is a defensive reaction labeled as “That's just how I...
Say Your Intention
November 24, 2014
Most people have good intentions. However, since most people usually do not express their intentions, others are left to guess at what they are. The stories that are confabulated are less than desirable and often lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, animosity, and conflict.
This can be...