How do we influence people and maintain our own authenticity? This is a question that many people ask in the Authentic Leadership 1 course. The idea of remaining true to oneself seems hard enough. When we add influence, many people throw their hands up and think it's impossible to do it authentically.
However, if we use the idea of self-styles, it becomes much easier. Using different internal characters, we can find some character who can relate to the others empathically, some character who understands the situation from a different perspective, some character who wants to resolve the situation, etc. The trick or key to this is finding the character inside you that can help dislodge the stuck-ness or rigidity.
When you're in a conversation in which you want to influence someone to see the situation differently than they do:
Practice this as often as possible and write in about your experiences.