If you've been following this month's blogs and practices, you know that any conversation you have while in a thriving mind will be more productive than one you have in a survive mind. This week's practice focuses on how to shift yourself from a survive mind in which your 'traitor' characters take hold to a thriving mind in which your 'angel' or 'inner coach' is in charge.
Though we might not like to admit it, the survive mind takes over when we feel threatened, even when we aren't aware of it. The moment that happens, whatever comes out of our mouths is potentially inflammatory. Statements or questions spoken from the survive mind can come across in negative ways that we don't really intend. Rather than staying in a survive mind and working hard to say the 'right' words, it is more advantageous to put your energy into shifting into a thrive mind. From that state, comments or questions come out differently in terms of content and tone.
Practice this at every opportunity, no matter how small and seemingly innocuous. As you practice in situations that are not highly charged, you are creating new neural networks and are helping yourself develop a new habit.
Enjoy, and please send in your experiences as you have them.