Loving What Is...Even Your Traitors

You could also call this practice: Kissing Frogs into Princes (or Princesses)

Directions:

When you become aware of one of your traitor characters getting ready to pounce, use the following practice:

  1. Acknowledge the character: “Oh, there you are. You're just about to swoop in and create havoc. However, instead of doing that, how about you just hang out here with me without saying anything, and then I'll let you vent when this conversation is over.”
  2. “I know you're just trying to help me which I appreciate, but I would really like you to hold back and give me a chance to do it on my own. Will you do that for me?”
  3. Listen to how the traitor character responds internally and then respond to it with loving kindness, with the respect this character, who has helped you for years, deserves. Give it tons of appreciation.
  4. Negotiate: Let it know that you will give it time to rant and rave....just not now.
  5. Thank the character for listening and for being willing to negotiate.
  6. Let the character know that you don't want to get rid of it, but you do want to feel as if it is your ally in your growth, not only in your protection.

When you become aware of one of your traitor characters has taken over, use the following practice:

  1. Acknowledge the character: “Oh, there you are. You just came in and took over. I know your intention is good—to protect me. However, I don't feel as if I need your protection right now. I'm ready to take a few more risks. So please back off a bit and give me some space.”
  2. From here, you can start from #2 above (with minor adjustments).

Have fun and enjoy those frogs. Who knows what will happen when you kiss them!

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